Are We Raising Future Husbands Or Future Puppets ...

Being a mom of 2 boys, I find myself asking this question more frequently.

If any of the following contents upsets you, then you should start thinking where you went wrong and try to make a change while you can still do it.

You see mom (mom-in-laws) he is not the only 'child' moving on, leaving the nest, as young ladies/women, we were also our parents 'child' in fact if we are lucky enough and our parents are still living, we are still someone's children. You mom (mom-in-laws) are not the only one moving to being second in line - our parents are going through the same thing! 

I do not get why mom (mom-in-laws) find it more important to worm themselves into their sons' lives or dominate them in everything they do. I do not understand why mom (mom-in-laws) have to be so controlling and have the last say and treat the partner of choice so horribly...I mean mom (mom-in-laws) how would you feel if the roles where reversed and your sons were treated the same way by our parents?

You are a mother and you made the promise to raise a son to be fit enough to one day make his own family and provide for them, well now it is time you need to back off and let them live their own life's with the ones they chose.

As if controlling and manipulating him was not enough you had to find your way to your grandkids. Just remember each one of them are unique in their own way and grow into their own person. To start disliking them when they stand up for what they believe is not right. You cannot have one favorite, you should love all your grandchildren the same.

I still have a long way to go before my boys will have to choose partners to spend their lives with, but I am trying to raise husbands and not puppets.

Raising a husband that will stand up for the partner he chooses, that will know she can not constantly cry or feel insecure because the partner he chose is not fit enough for him, he was better off before she came into the picture or the best, she made him a rude horrible person, he was raised a well-mannered child.

If only you mom (mom-in-laws) can see how much damage you are creating between your son and the mother of his kids...if only you can see what you are doing is wrong. Your son's partner is also a human being.

Respect is earned not given.